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Enlightened Entrepreneurial Badasses is all about helping you optimise mental, emotional, physical & spiritual health in order to grow stronger from the inside-out and realise your truest potential. Host and mindset, health & wellness expert, Michael Glover, combines his relaxed chats with industry leading coaches, health gurus and spiritual thought leaders with his own uniquely expressed thoughts on optimising our mindset, personal development, brain performance, health, controlling that crazy b****rd in your head and just generally building that rock-solid badass mind-body-soul foundation that helps us win at life! Inspired by the likes of Underground Wellness by Sean Croxton, The Model Health Show by Shawn Stevenson, Elliot Hulse, Lewis Howes, James Altutcher & Rich Roll.
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Aug 31, 2016

Around 18 months ago, I was in deep internal crisis mode.

I had a growing personal training business I’d spent the previous three years striving to build up.

My own gym, my own brand, my own rules. It was exactly what I had been dreaming of and what I thought would bring me the happiness, fulfilment and success that I craved.

But it didn’t. All it ended up bringing was constant work, loneliness and an ever expanding black hole of guilt and shame within me.

I loved my clients. But I did not love myself or my life and it was tearing me up inside.

So one day I just decided to sell everything – the business, the equipment, my car, my stuff – and embark on a journey to figure this shit out.

I went to parts of Europe I had always been planning on going to ‘someday’, I met a beautiful American girlfriend in the amazing Dublin and I spent three months in the incredible South East Asia with nothing but a backpack and my own thoughts.

Now I know this sounds all idealistic and wonderful. And, in a way, it was.

But it also wasn’t all about sunsets and rainbows. There was a lot of soul searching, anxiety and dark times to accompany the light involved throughout the entire experience.

So in this blog I just wanted to share a few of the things I learned by making that decision 18 months ago and embarking on this journey that I will continue to be on for the rest of my life.

#1 Actually, It’s Not a Journey

I know I literally just mentioned the word journey in that last sentence.

But, actually, something I discovered about this whole ‘thing’ that I was trying to do is that there is no journey involved.

For so long I believed I was headed to a specific destination in life.

It wasn’t really a conscious awareness, but more of an underlying acknowledgment that when I got to a certain job, status, business level, monthly income or whatever then everything would be cool and I would have ‘made it’.

The trouble with viewing life as a journey is that we sometimes forget about what’s actually going on right now.

We make sacrifices and tell ourselves to ‘just hold on’ and it will all be ok once we get around the next corner.

Quite logically in most cases, we tend to think about travelling in terms of journeys and destinations.

Truth is, when I left London last year I knew I was set to arrive in Vietnam 36 hours later with just two nights’ worth of accommodation booked and no return flight organised. I just didn’t wanted to savour each moment without forever thinking about getting to the next destination.

Something that really struck a chord with me was a concept first suggested to me by the awesome Bob Buckley, who was a fantastic guest on the podcast.

Bob said to think of life like a song, as opposed to a journey. When you’re listening to or playing a song, you don’t sit there waiting to get to the end so you can complete it and get it done (unless it’s some kind of One Direction garbage). You enjoy every moment, every beat and every note of it. And life can be the same.

#2 Destroy to Create & Grow

I’ve spent a lot of my life living from a place of fear.

Fearful over what could happen and holding on to everything in my life for fear that I miss out or someone or something might come in and take everything away.

This is a great way, however, to keep ourselves stuck in our ways and limited in what we can do and experience.

The most obvious example here is me taking the step of, effectively, destroying my personal training business in order to make space for me to grow and create something new.

It wasn’t just the physical act of literally destroying the existence of that business to allow myself more time and freedom, but also the mental and spiritual effect this had on me too. I destroyed the entire identity I held for myself along with that business, in order to allow room for creating a new, better serving one.

It obviously took a lot of thinking and courage to do, but if I hadn’t have destroyed that and given up holding on to certain things then I would still be stuck there now. So destroying certain things can be good to make space within us for more growth.

Now I’m obviously not saying if you have a bad day you should instantly go out and willy nilly destroy everything you’ve worked for. You don’t have to do what I did and literally tear everything down and start again.

But just be aware of if you are holding on to thoughts, beliefs, businesses or anything in your life, that maybe being willing to destroy that to make room for the next level of growth and creation could be a vital first step.

#3 Connection is Key

For way too long I pretty much ignored a lot of people in my life and alienated certain people and family members in the name of needing to build my business.

Again, this was borne out of a mindset of “when I’m successful, then I will reconnect with people and have time for friends and proper relationships”.

There’s a huge flaw in this logic, which is that most people crave connection to some degree. Despite unquestionably being deeply introverted, this is the same for me as well.

In the final weeks of being in my personal training business, I realised just how cut off and isolated from anyone outside of my business and immediate family I had become. Although I could (and still can) be very happy spending long periods by myself, I got myself into a position of desperate loneliness.

A huge lack of self-worth and a belief that I would perennially be ‘the quiet one’ nobody wanted to listen to left me thinking for a time that I just didn’t have it in me to truly connect with people.

But as I embarked on my travels and began connecting with myself at a deeper level, I soon realised how to embrace and unshackle the real me in order to connect with people on a deeper level.

And as I progressed on my travels, it became very apparent how even the ugliest of places can be made beautiful when you have the right people around you.

#4 The Answers Are All Within

Sounds super corny and esoteric, I know. But it’s true nonetheless.

At my lowest points, I would always look externally for ways to solve my problems.

The quest for the ‘magic bullet’ was something I was continually on, investing in all kinds of people and programmes that would provide tools, tips, blueprints and ‘strategies’. All of which I went into expecting them to magically ‘fix’ my problems instantly.

I call these ‘surface solutions’ because they look good from the outside but they always remain external and simply scratch the surface of what is actually going on inside.

After these ‘surface solutions’ failed to give me the outcome I expected, I simply began filling myself up with resentment, frustration and blame around the fact I had spent money on these and yet still remained stuck. I had all the answers and ‘strategy’ I needed, but still the internal stuff was holding me back.

We tend to do this in all areas of life – buying workout DVDs, diet programmes, online courses, self-help books, how-to guides and all kinds of stuff that end up being used for a very small amount of time before being cast to the back of the cupboard in an act of ‘self-sabotage’. By the way, check out podcast “Ep #034: Building A Badass Brain Pt 1” where I go into detail about what self-sabotage actually is and how to deal with it.

But somewhere along the way, as soon as I stopped looking outside of myself for all the answers, I realised that everything I needed was already inside me. That no matter how many courses I bought or books I read, if I didn’t dig deep into discovering myself and getting my mindset right then nothing would ever work in the way I wanted it to.

Since coming to this realisation, I now notice myself scrolling past the vast majority of Facebook ads for this and that I would have been easily pulled into previously and resisting the temptation to sign up for everyone’s webinar or online course.

Of course, I still invest in coaching and help. But the difference is that I only do this with very few people and with only those who I truly resonate with, as opposed to getting overwhelmed with other people’s blueprints, formulas and systems.

#5 Your Values Are Your Guiding Compass

When I was in Thailand, I took part in a 10-day retreat that changed my life and the way I look at the world.

Before I arrived in the stunning location of Phuket, I was massively confused still.

It had been around six months since I closed my gym and, despite trying a few things online asking myself some deep questions, I still felt lost when it came to figuring out who I was and what I wanted to ‘do’.

In fact, I was beginning to question if I was doing the right thing and whether I should have just stayed in my old business and grafted it out like a ‘proper business person’ would have.

I’d been travelling for a few months by this point and I remember feeling like I was just moving along without any real purpose or passion. I was just ‘being’. And while at times this was an incredibly liberating feeling, at others it was, to be honest, boring!

I didn’t require a specific destination to get to in life, but I wanted at least to be moving in a purposeful direction instead of just being blown whichever way the wind took me.

Then we took some time on the retreat to dig into figuring out our values. And everything just started to click. We looked internally at what we truly believe about the world and who we are at the deepest depths of our core to find out what we truly value in life.

Suddenly, there was a guiding light.

Not an external voice shouting what you ‘should’ be doing and where you ‘should’ be going, but an internal compass that has been trying to pull you where you really want to go all along.

Because, at the end of the day, the only real truth in this world is our own truth. We just need to find the clarity and courage to find and follow it.

For more on beginning to find your own core values, check out Episode #025 of the podcast.

#6 Spend More Time Thinking Like a Child

There were many occasions where travelling around in South East Asia left me staying with random people I didn’t know in hostels and as a Couchsurfing guest.

Many of the places I stayed were simply local families who had spare rooms available and recognised they could rent them out to passing travellers.

And, of course, this often meant there were children around.

I’m normally pretty nervous around kids as I convinced myself I’m no good with them, don’t know how to talk to them and worry about whether they will think I’m fun or not. Turns out, however, I’m pretty good with kids when I want to be.

When I visited Chiang Mai up in northern Thailand, I ended up going on a trek through the jungle that involved staying with a local tribe village in bamboo huts at the top of a mountain. It was a stunning location surrounded by nothing but incredible views, secluded rainforest and phenomenal waterfalls.

But the part of this that really drew my attention was the children living there.

These kids were so happy all the time, as most kids are. Despite not having running water or electricity, they would run around and love life. In fact, one of the guys I was with brought out an electric razor he used to shave his hair and the kids were so amazed by it that they queued up to each get a haircut.

Another time, while I was staying with a family on the beautiful Malaysian island of Langkawi, there was a kid who just seemed obsessed with learning everything about me and using my iPhone to take pictures of himself.

My point here is that I often forgot about the value of being able to look at the world like children do.

We get to a certain age and no longer want to be seen as children anymore. And then we grow up and get into ‘the real world’ and start playing all the games ‘real world adults’ do.

But through a child’s eyes, the world is a playground. It is a place to be inquisitive, learn and grow without judgement or worry about what others will think. In fact, it could be said that a child’s main role at this time in their life is to learn and grow.

For some reason, though, we get to a certain point where we feel like we’ve done enough growing, had enough fun and gained a ‘realistic’ perspective on the world that sets us up for a ‘good life’.

Seeing these children while travelling and being exposed to how most live their lives just opened my eyes to how much we can, as adults, learn from them if we choose to.

Take a listen to the podcast episode for this blog post via the player at the top.

Or head over to iTunes and subscribe there for Apple lovers, and over on Stitcher for non-Apple peeps.

Love, Laughter & Light,

P.S. If you haven’t done so already, click here to join my Facebook group and engage with all the other dudes and dudettes in the Enlightened Entrepreneurial Badasses tribe!

Aug 29, 2016

It was great talking with Bruce Langford.

He's a guy who is all about mindfulness and even has his own awesome podcast dedicated to this subject called 'Mindfulness Mode'.

Personally, I love the whole idea of 'mindfulness' and think we can all benefit from having more of it in our lives.

But I'm not someone who has dug deep into the subject myself, what it exactly is and how to use it.

So it was awesome to get real deep on mindfulness with Bruce.

And to talk about how he first got into it and used the principles with himself and in the 'bullying prevention' work he does in schools.

In The Episode, We Talk About...

  • Bruce's story of overcoming anxiety and inner turmoil when he was younger.
  • How Bruce first encountered mindfulness and incorporated it into his life.
  • The importance of awareness for bringing inner calm.
  • The different ways we can use mindfulness in our lives.
  • Simple tactics for bringing more mindfulness and inner peace into a busy life.
  • Why ending our own self-judgement can be incredibly powerful.


You can give the episode a listen via the player above.

Or head over to iTunes and subscribe there for Apple lovers, and over on Stitcher for non-Apple peeps.

Love, Laughter & Light,

P.S. If you haven’t done so already, click here to join my Facebook group and engage with all the other dudes and dudettes in the Enlightened Entrepreneurial Badasses tribe!

Aug 26, 2016

Fear shows up all the time.

And it holds a lot of us back.

But it's a pretty logical and necessary bodily function that is responsible for probably saving our lives several times while we're here on this earth.

It's what stops us overtaking on a bend or walking to close to the cliff edge.

Yet there are multitudes of occasions in our modern world where it's not needed.

So in this podcast I talk about how to deal with it.

I talk about...

  • What fear actually is.
  • Why it's pretty important and useful.
  • The two choices we have when it comes to fear.
  • How to deal with fear when it shows up.
  • How fear and anxiety can be used as self-correcting mechanisms.
  • Why it's important to embrace and acknowledge fear.

Take a listen via the player at the top of the page.

Or head over to iTunes and subscribe there for Apple lovers, and over on Stitcher for non-Apple peeps.

Love, Laughter & Light,

P.S. If you haven’t done so already, click here to join my Facebook group and engage with all the other dudes and dudettes in the Enlightened Entrepreneurial Badasses tribe!

Aug 24, 2016

I think the term ‘mindset’ gets banded around quite a lot.

It seems to be the new ‘in thing’ for trainers, coaches, gurus and everyone else to bang on about the need to ‘master your mindset’.

There’s no doubt it’s a critical piece to the puzzle.

In fact, I think it’s a foundational, underlying and essential piece.

But it’s also often misunderstood and underutilised when it comes to creating or facilitating lasting change towards success and happiness.

Back when I first started my own journey with mindset, I used to see people posting and talking about the subject without any real substance to it.

It’s all too common to see things about the importance of ‘getting in the right mindset’ and ‘mindset is everything’ without offering anything further.

I used to think “okay, but HOW do I get this mindset thing down?”

So in this post I want to share with you what I believe to be the basics of mastering your mindset for success, inner peace and happiness in all facets of life.

Step One: Detach

In some sort of weird paradox, one of the very biggest things that used to screw me up was my sheer desire and desperation to learn and succeed.

I know that sounds weird, but bear with me.

Because what this did was have me following, subscribing and connecting with so many different people I just didn’t know which way to go.

I had email newsletters coming into my inbox at all hours of the day, would watch YouTube videos, read blogs, read books and basically consume everything and anything from anyone I deemed to be more ‘successful’ than me.

This could range from anything to do with making me a better coach, to marketing, to sales or anything that took my fancy at that particular time.

The problem with this, however, is that there is more than one way to skin a cat.

One person’s marketing, sales or coaching strategy may work for them, but not for you or me.

So I was accumulating all kinds of information and learning a great deal, but was taking absolutely fuck all action.

Follow the Right People For YOU

I’d start something in a variety of areas in my life thinking ‘this is it, this is the one’ and then see another post or video and feel like I was now doing it wrong and needed to start all over again.

Not surprisingly, this is a recipe for being unsuccessful and feeling like shit.

But this isn’t to say to just ignore everyone and go off doing whatever you want.

It is, of course, possible to learn a great deal from a lot of people out there.

The only thing I would say is make sure whoever you do follow or take advice from aligns with you.

For example, there are a lot of people who feel at home in the ‘hard sales’ world and like the whole Glengarry Glen Ross, ‘coffee for closers’ approach.

There’s nothing wrong with that, per se, but if it doesn’t align with you then you don’t have to do it that way.

I used to be in a group that had that kind of mentality to sales and I hated it. It’s just not me. But for a while I just thought ‘this is sales’ and if I want a successful business then I have to get used to doing it that way.


And this applies to any area of life too.

My advice is to begin your quest for mindset mastery by a simple process of ‘selectively detaching’ from all the people, blogs and what not who do not align with you.

Only allow the people and information into your life that is aligned with you and the kind of person you are.

Take this podcast, for example. It may have some awesome stuff around mindset and performance for entrepreneurs and busy people, but if the way I present it or the kind of person I come across as doesn’t speak to and align with you then don’t subscribe.

Decluttering your mind and only allowing in what is truly useful for you is huge.

Step Two: Acceptance

This is a very necessary, yet also very harsh and, sometimes, extremely hard to take on board step.

So I’m going to frame it around a personal story.

Up until very recently, I still harboured a lot of resentment and bitterness inside towards things that happened ‘to me’ in my past.

I’m not talking about anything too drastic here.

But I would look at my present situation, see the aspects I didn’t like or weren’t happy with and hold deep amounts of blame and resentment around them.

I’d resent the coach for taking my money and getting me into debt after they, in my view, didn’t hold up their end of the bargain.

I’d blame my deep introvertism for the fact I felt alone.

And I’d just generally get myself frustrated around elements of my current situation that I didn’t like.

We All Make Choices

The hardest thing for me to hear was that my situation was, is and will always be a matter of my own choosing.

Whether consciously or subconsciously, I chose everything that was going on in my life.

When I was first invited to explore this possibility, I wanted to, in no uncertain terms, tell the person who was telling me this to fuck right off.

Why would I choose to be in debt?

Why would I choose to be stuck?

Why would I choose to <insert whatever life struggle here>?

But, in actual fact, we make choices all the time, whether that be a conscious decision or a subconscious one framed around our beliefs and thoughts.

The Good Thing About This

So, by now, if you’ve never been exposed to this concept before, you may very well be extremely pissed off with me. I know I was when I first heard this stuff.

But the sooner we can accept that life happens for us, not to us, the sooner we can be liberated from the limits of our own mind and seeing everything as an opportunity, rather than a problem keeping us stuck.

We are choosing all the time, whether we realise it or not.

And simply and fully accepting this, without the need for resentment or blame upon ourselves that we could have been choosing differently all along, is the first step to liberation.

The great thing about this, however, is that as soon as we do accept our current reality for what it is, we open ourselves up to a different one.

If we accept that we chose the reality we have now, it instantly means that we can simply now begin to choose a different, happier, healthier and more successful one.

One we maybe previously thought wasn’t possible for us due to the external things being perceived as happening to us and preventing us getting what we want.

So invite you to simply explore this concept.

And just allow yourself to think about maybe being at ease with the current reality, in order to open up choosing into a new one.

Step Three: Awareness

So now we’ve detached from the web of all the crap coming into our consciousness and also fully accepted our current reality without judgement or resentment, it’s time to start gaining some awareness of what’s actually going on in our mind.

All too often, we try to suppress everything happening inside us.

We label thoughts ‘bad’ or ‘good’ and when something ‘bad’ comes up, we try to ignore it and push it away.

In fact, this practice often just results in us inadvertently suppressing all thoughts and feelings until we end up being almost ‘numb’ to everything.

But how about we just label these things ‘thoughts’? Not good or bad or anything else, just… thoughts.

There’s no attachment to them in any way. They just ‘are what they are’.

And then instead of ignoring them and wishing the bad ones went away, we took some time to simply look at them.

Switch the Lights On

Rather than simply trying to blindly put your foot on the accelerator and be an ‘action taker’ or a ‘hustler’ or whatever these bullshit motivational videos and memes tell us we should be, let’s just take a moment to look inside and consider what’s actually going on.

Because if we can’t see our obstacles, we can’t avoid them.

It’s like playing dodgeball in the dark. We can adhere to the five Ds of dodgeball (dodge, duck, dip, dive and dodge – sad that I didn’t even need to research what these actually are) all we like, but if it’s pitch black then we never know when we’re going to get hit.

What’s my point here?

If we’re constantly trying to ignore our thoughts without looking at them and creating epic awareness, then we will continually just keep getting smacked in the face with thought after thought after thought and end up getting knocked down.

So switch the lights on, so to speak.

Don’t just ‘keep on ploughing through’ because some douche in a video told you to ‘never give up on your dreams’ and played some fancy music over the top.

The Art of Awareness

It takes an investment of your time and focus, simple as that.

An investment where you accept that it is actually worth putting down the laptop, the phone, the appointments and even putting down the new self-help book you’ve started…

And just being with you.

Turn the lights on, inwardly.

Ask yourself questions about who you are, your beliefs, your fears, what goes through your head.

Just look at your thoughts.

Remove any judgement of whether they are ‘good’ or ‘bad’ thoughts and create some internal awareness of what is actually going on inside you.

It doesn’t need to be hours of sat on a rock meditating.

But just value spending some time with YOU and becoming aware of the dodgeballs you’re throwing at yourself every day.

Write them down or record them in some way and be brave enough to just LOOK at what’s actually going on inside you.

Step Four: Challenge

You probably already started doing this just off the back of creating awareness.

It’s pretty common for awareness in itself to be curative.

So by simply bringing a thought to your conscious awareness and looking it, you can instantly see how it isn’t actually true.

But there are some (or many) that creep through.

And this means that the process of properly challenging the thought must begin.

Remember step two around accepting everything? Well, this is where this really comes into its own.

If you’re looking at one of your thoughts and struggling to get past it, just remember the concept of accepting what is and that there could be an alternative if you choose it.

Say you’re struggling, for example, with the thought of “I’m not good enough”.

Simply accepting that there is a different way to think in which you actually do feel like you are ‘good enough’ is an essential first thing to do.

Then we can start to challenge it and investigate it.

Ask yourself questions, such as ‘where did this come from?’ and ‘is this really true?’.

Investigate and challenge your negative thoughts and beliefs in an attempt to prove to yourself that they actually are just layers of bullshit we’ve built up over the years.

Step Five: Alignment

So far, we’ve done an awful lot of investigation and breaking down in order to clear out all the current stories and bullshit that’s keeping our mindset frozen.

But now it’s time to align with the most effective, joyful and productive version of ourselves.

The first thing we need to do is get clear on who this is.

  • What do you desire in your life?
  • What do you believe about life, health, business and relationships?
  • What kind of person do you want to show up as?
  • What daily behaviours do you want to encompass?
  • What are your core values?

Asking ourselves questions like these enables us to get clear on the kind of person or ‘mindset’ we want to consciously align to.

Taking time to do this and going as deep and as detailed as possible helps us build up a clear picture in our own minds of who we desire to be.

And, to be honest, it’s as simple as that – realising and creating our best self and choosing into being it.

Sounds sort of oversimplified, right?

Well it is simple. But it’s not easy.

It’s simple to consciously align to our best selves.

But then when our subconscious beliefs and mental-shittery comes creeping back in again it can all go to pot.

That’s why we need to ingrain this version of ourselves into our subconscious.

And this is done by…

Step Six: Repetition

This is where the real ‘work’ comes in.

It’s easy to do the ‘one off task’ of the questions in the previous step, but repeating it and ingraining it into us day-after-day is where the ‘magic’ happens.

I do this through a process of:

  • Visualisation
  • Silence/meditation
  • Journaling

When it comes to visualisation, I suggest each morning and evening just reminding yourself of your vision.

And when I say your vision, I mean everything you’ve outlined in step five.

This is the vision of how you want your life to look, the kind of person you want to be and the kind of thoughts and behaviours you want to have.

Spend some dedicated time just for a few minutes each morning and evening to remind yourself of this.

And continually remind yourself of who you want to show up as in your life as you go through the day.

In each moment, accept that you can choose into love, joy and the best version of yourself, or choose into fear, anxiety and doubt.

And calm your mind through a regular practice of silence/meditation and journaling of your thoughts.

Your aim is to stay aligned with everything in step five (who you really are) as often as possible through the day.

Take a listen to the podcast episode for this blog post via the player at the top.

Or head over to iTunes and subscribe there for Apple lovers, and over on Stitcher for non-Apple peeps.

Love, Laughter & Light,

P.S. If you haven’t done so already, click here to join my Facebook group and engage with all the other dudes and dudettes in the Enlightened Entrepreneurial Badasses tribe!

Aug 22, 2016

Michael Sliwinski has dedicated the past decade of his life to optimising productivity.

So it was awesome to have him on the podcast to talk about that very subject.

Michael was a stressed out consultant struggling to fit all his tasks into a working day.

He tried various books, apps and solutions.

But kept on hitting a wall when it came to making something work for him.

Until one day, he decided to create his own app, Nozbe, to solve his problems.

He then became obsessed with all things productivity and hasn't looked back.

So that is what we talk about in today's podcast.

In The Episode, We Talk About…

  • How Michael went from disorganised consultant to productivity king.
  • Michael's top tips for productivity.
  • The biggest mistakes Michael sees people make when it comes to productivity.
  • How Michael plans out his week to get more done in less time.
  • The power of investing your time to get more done.
  • Why and how to go 'iPad only'.
  • Michael's awesome 'two minute rule' for getting small things done.
  • Top apps, books and tools for productivity.


What an epic conversation this was to have and I hope you love listening to it.

You can give the episode a listen via the player above.

Or head over to iTunes and subscribe there for Apple lovers, and over on Stitcher for non-Apple peeps.

Love, Laughter & Light,

P.S. If you haven’t done so already, click here to join my Facebook group and engage with all the other dudes and dudettes in the Enlightened Entrepreneurial Badasses tribe!

Aug 19, 2016

Something I used to do a lot of was putting up walls.

Walls that blocked the real me off from the people around me.

I built up walls of 'fake' personalities based on what I thought people wanted me to be or who I 'should' be.

But it just led to inner turmoil.

So this is what I wanted to talk about on this podcast.

I talk about...

  • Breaking down the fake walls we build around us.
  • Why it's important to achieve inner peace.
  • How being authentic helps you connect with people on a deeper level.
  • Questions to ask to start breaking down your walls.
  • How to deal with judgement from others against the 'real you'.

Take a listen via the player at the top of the page.

Or head over to iTunes and subscribe there for Apple lovers, and over on Stitcher for non-Apple peeps.

Love, Laughter & Light,

P.S. If you haven’t done so already, click here to join my Facebook group and engage with all the other dudes and dudettes in the Enlightened Entrepreneurial Badasses tribe!

Aug 17, 2016

Note: You can click here to download the PDF on 'Energising Exercises' I talk about in the podcast.

Morning times can pretty much make or break my day.

Some days I’ll feel energised, ready to go and get plenty of stuff done.

And then there are other days where I’ll pretty much feel like a sloth on sleeping tablets and have to force myself to complete even the smallest amount of work.

I think this happens to everyone, regardless of how enlightened and healthy they are.

But something that certainly helps me control this and gives me the best chance of a high performing, joyful and productive day is to invest in doing some things to take care of me in the mornings.

A Warning About Routines

Many people will have morning routines they go through.

But I’m not going to share a specific routine in a ‘you must follow this’ kind of fashion.

Because I believe we all need to put together a few things that work for us as individuals, as opposed to following somebody else’s blueprint.

I can tell you from my own personal experience that when we get ourselves to do someone else’s routine “because I should do”, it can sometimes be counter-productive.

We can start feeling like everything is ‘forced’. And then if that expectant result of super positivity and productivity doesn’t come, we start to resent the routine itself.

And then our whole morning can be filled with resentment and frustration, not joy.

So here are a few things I wanted to share that could be included in a morning routine or as just one off things that will help you experience more joyful, productive and high performing days.

#1 You First

To start with, I want to share more of a concept that’s pretty useful to fully understand and accept.

And that is to start all this off with a sheer, guilt-free desire to begin the day by doing something for you first.

I know a lot of people find this hard to do, especially if they have children.

But starting each day by focusing first on showing some love to ourselves enables us to then go and give so much more to others, whether they be children, partners, clients, co-workers or just complete strangers.

If we focus on filling ourselves up first then we can show up for everyone else as the very best version of us and give so much more.

It’s far from selfish to want to show up for your kids and others at your 100% best, as opposed to a tired, grumpy and possibly even depressed version of you.

In fact, I would go as far as saying it could be seen as pretty selfish to hold back the best version of you from them.

So I would invite you to explore the idea that putting yourself first is actually a pretty selfless act, and one that can see you experience greater health, performance, joy and relationships as a result.

#2 Be Clear On Your Intention

Now this is something that was huge for me.

I used to get up, do a morning routine and then just try and blog or podcast or post on Facebook or just get general stuff done.

I wasn’t 100% sure what my intention was around it all.

I just knew I wanted an online business and to get some coaching clients or start a membership site or something along those lines.

And I also knew the first step to all this was to start producing regular content, such as blogs and podcasts.

So that’s what I started doing.

The trouble with this is that it gets very demoralising after a while and almost starts to feel pointless. A lot of what we do doesn’t see an immediate reward in terms of payment, recognition, pounds lost or health conditions reversed.

But when you know exactly what your intention is around what you do on a daily basis, it becomes a lot less likely to find yourself wondering ‘why am I doing this again?’.

For example, you could be thinking that you’re doing what you’re doing because you just want some more clients or customers. Or that you want to maybe start a membership site one day. Or maybe that you might get some kind of promotion at work one day. Or that you just ‘get a bit fitter and healthier’.

This kind of thinking is pretty vague and unclear.

But if we know our exact intention around what we do every day, it gives us greater drive.

If you know exactly the number of clients or customers you want and exactly what process you will take them through then this brings excitement.

If you have a membership site all planned out and every detail ready to go then you are more driven.

If you know you have a shot at getting promoted up three levels by March 2017 then it lights more of a fire within you.

If you can visualise how you look and feel as a result of implementing healthier habits then it gives you greater focus.

In other words, get super clear on what exactly you intend to happen as a result of what you do on a daily basis.

How do you intend your life to look? What will your energy levels be like? What will you look like? How will your business have grown?

Because being unclear on why we’re doing something and what exactly we intend to happen is a great way to put the brain into a mode of ‘I can’t be bothered anymore’.

#3 Hydrate Yo’Self

I know I’ve banged on about this before.

But it’s so important to start the day by getting yourself off to a good start in the hydration department.

You possibly haven’t had any water for 7, 8, 9+ hours when you awaken from your dreary slumber in the morning.

Couple this with the fact that your body has been hard at work repairing, regenerating, detoxifying and doing all sorts of other jobs while you sleep and it’s pretty much a guarantee to say that you are dehydrated to some level in the mornings.

So getting into the habit of getting a big old glass of water down you is a perfect way to start the day.

Personally, I begin with a 500ml glass of water.

I make sure it’s filtered for chlorine and other chemical nasties, rather than straight out of the tap, as I don’t want that shit in my body.

And I sometimes even add a pinch of Himalayan or good quality, unprocessed sea salt to increase the mineral and electrolyte content.

All in all, I’m getting re-hydrated after a pretty long time without water and setting my standard for how I want the day to go on when it comes to staying optimally hydrated.

#4 Silent Time

It’s so easy to get pulled into hitting the snooze button and getting up last minute before rushing around to get dressed, breakfasted and out the door each morning.

Everything gets done at hyper speed and is almost a blur.

But starting your day as you would like to continue it is essential.

So if you start with stress, overwhelm and everything happening at a frantic pace, then there’s a good chance your whole day will continue like that.

You can end up just feeling unfocused, scatter brained, anxious and out of control for large parts of the day.

Having a period of purposeful silent time just enables you to start the day by signalling that you are in control.

You’re beginning by creating a feeling of calm, clarity and peace of mind and putting yourself in a position for continuing like this.

It doesn’t matter if you want to call it silence, meditation, prayer or ‘crazy weird hippy quiet time’. The important thing is that you understand how beneficial this can be for us.

I would suggest starting with 10 minutes, but if you’re really struggling then try even just five minutes of sitting and focusing on your breath.

A great app to try is Headspace, which I’m sure many will have heard of. But there’s also, which is a great tool that I personally use for a whole host of things.

Or you can just play some peaceful music, such as Chinese flute music. Just make sure it doesn’t have a beat, otherwise it can actually start to make you go into the opposite of a meditative state and want to start tapping your foot and dancing!

But, all in all, just having 5-10 minutes of silent time away from other people and before having to think about all the worries and stresses can be so powerful in helping you feel calmer, take control and prevent the day running away from you.

#5 Breathing Techniques

There are plenty of variants on breathing techniques and ways we can play with the breath.

A particular breathing technique I’m loving at the moment is known as the ‘breath of fire’.

It’s a technique that I believe is developed from a kundalini yoga practice (although yogis please feel free to expose my lack of yoga knowledge there) and really gets you feeling alert and into the present moment.

Essentially, it’s fast nasal breathing in and out while still maintaining correct in and out movement of the belly. Just doing 30 seconds or so of this can be really powerful.

There’s also a simple breathing squat, which I also like.

This is a slow, relaxed bodyweight squat with the breathing reversed from how we would normally perform a squat.

So breathing out as you lower down and in as you come up.

This is really good for ‘moving meditation’ and bringing about some relaxation and focus, while also being really useful if you happen to be suffering with any constipation.

You can check out my PDF on breathing exercises here.

#6 Get Moving

Again, another typical pattern of the ‘busy person’ is to just try and get into work as soon as possible.

It’s easy to develop a habit of getting to the desk or computer as soon as possible so we can get more done.

Then, if there’s time, we will do some exercise or workout later in the day.

But that feeling of getting out and exercising and charging the body up in the morning is such a powerful way of getting ourselves ready for performing at our best during the day.

It doesn’t necessarily need to be a full on workout. Something as simple as a few minutes of raising the heart rate and getting ‘worked up’ can help increase energy, focus, emotional wellbeing and our ability to think and concentrate longer.

Go for a walk, go for a run, do some yoga, do some energising breathing exercises or anything just to ‘get the blood flowing’ and the body pumping in the morning.

I can also tell you that back when I was a personal trainer I had way more cancellations from clients in the evening than in the morning.

So if you’re trying to stick to an exercise ritual, starting the day by focusing on giving yourself some love and getting it done in the morning means you are much less likely to let a ‘hectic day’ stop you from working out.

Also, morning exercise is much more in line with our circadian rhythms, as opposed to evening bouts of exercise.

#7 Fuel Yourself Optimally

As I’ve said in previous episodes, I’m not a huge stickler for needing to have breakfast within a certain amount of time of waking up.

Personally, I don’t tend to have my first meal until around 2-3 hours after waking.

But whenever you do have that first meal, I would say just make sure it’s a balanced meal and right for you.

For me, that means a good deal of protein, healthy fats and low sugar carbs.

Generally, I’ll have some kind of egg with veggies (e.g. cucumber, tomato, peppers, onion, broccoli, spinach) and avocado or nuts then drizzled with a little olive oil.

The key here, though, is to find what works for you.

So I would invite you to, rather than finding some ‘cookie cutter’ meal plan, to actually start listening what your body is saying to you after eating certain foods.

Ask yourself in the 1-2 hours after eating a meal questions like:

  • How am I feeling?
  • Do I feel energised?
  • Do I feel a high, followed by a crash?
  • Do I feel sluggish?
  • Do I feel bloated?
  • Do I feel good?

It can take practice and a bit of trial and error. If you’re not sure, try a few different kinds of meals and ask yourself how you feel afterwards and you will soon get more in tune with whether different foods are helping or hindering you.

#8 Hot/Cold Showers

Something I’m beginning to use every day is a hot/cold shower.

What this means is simply ending a shower by switching from hot to cold and back again several times.

Usually, I’ll do cold for 10 seconds on my back, followed by cold for 10 seconds on my front and then onto hot (but not too hot) again for 10 seconds. I’ll then repeat this 4-5 times before ending on 30 seconds of cold.

And when I say cold, I mean the coldest that damn shower will go.

Of course, it takes a bit of guts to start with, but once you just ‘rip off that plaster’ it gets easier.

What this hot/cold action does is create a pumping action on the body and can really stimulate the nervous, circulatory, lymphatic and immune systems.

But the main reason I do this practice is due to the feeling afterwards.

It’s tough at first, and I’ve been known to have my hand hovering over the cold tap for a while before turning it on full, but it really does feel amazing.

You leap out of that shower feeling energised, fresh, alert and ready to go.

#9 Go Somewhere Happy

Changing your environment can genuinely change your thinking, state, mood and, therefore, productivity and performance.

It’s so easy to just go through the same routine over and over (even if it’s a productive morning routine) and look at the same four walls or same scenery every single time.

It gets stale and it can get boring.

So something I always try and do is to go seek out an environment I know I will garner some joy from.

Maybe it’s going for a stroll along the beach, getting into nature somewhere or just heading out into the garden.

But there is always a place you can go to that has a good chance of making you happy, which can result in higher performance when ‘back at work’ or getting back to other areas in your life.

I should also mention here the power of neuro-associations when it comes to our environment.

I did a podcast on this subject, which you can listen to here. But this is essentially making sure that we ‘set up’ our environments (work, sleep, cooking, eating, relaxing, exercising, creating, etc.) in order to get the most out of each.

For example, if the environment where you work has constant reminders (whether conscious or subconscious) of something negative form your past, then this can diminish your performance.

If you try working in the place where you are supposed to sleep, then this can mess up your work performance, your sleep or both!

So set up your environments to be positive and in line with what you want to get done in there.

#10 Laugh

I cannot stress this one enough!

There is not a shred of evidence anywhere to prove that life is supposed to be taken seriously.

And I think we take all of this ‘business’ and ‘career’ stuff way too seriously sometimes.

I highly encourage you to just do something that makes you laugh at some point in your morning – as in proper belly laugh.

Whether it be 10 mins of your favourite comedian, playing with the kids or just being a complete mentalist and belly laughing for no apparent reason, it’s all infectious and will obviously put you in a much better mood.

And if you’re feeling more positive then you’re going to perform better and experience more joy in your life.

So the next time a morning appears to be overtaking your emotions… just laugh. Laugh hard. And laugh regularly.

Take a listen to the podcast episode for this blog post via the player at the top.

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Love, Laughter & Light,

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Aug 15, 2016

Kute Blackson 2012

This was such a wonderful conversation I had with Kute Blackson.

His story is one of genuine inspiration.

Born in Ghana and raised in London, he left the relative 'security' of continuing his father's ministry to move to LA and create the life he wanted.

Kute arrived in LA with pretty much nothing but a burning passion and a calling to do something great with his life.

It was more than just his purpose.

It was something he couldn't help but do.

And this is what we talk a lot about in the episode today.

In The Episode, We Talk About...

  • Kute's story of travelling to America with nothing but a burning calling and turning it into a massively successful business.
  • Why it's important to never compromise on your essence of integrity.
  • How to stop playing the game of confusion many of us play.
  • Finding YOUR truth.
  • The power of listening to and TRUSTING your 'inner voice'.
  • How to get excited about embracing the unknown.
  • Four no BS questions to find your life's purpose.
  • Doing all this while dealing with money and scarcity consciousness.


What an epic conversation this was to have and I hope you love listening to it.

You can give the episode a listen via the player above.

Or head over to iTunes and subscribe there for Apple lovers, and over on Stitcher for non-Apple peeps.

Love, Laughter & Light,

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Aug 12, 2016

The word 'should' is not very useful.

It creates a feeling that there is 'one way' to do something that you must adhere to.

Or that you are failing because you're not in line with some image of where you 'should' be.

All this does nothing but create pressure and anxiety within us.

We start to punish ourselves for not adhering to all these 'shoulds' and it just all creates a shitty, unproductive feeling.

And that's what I talk about in the podcast this week.

I talk about...

  • How the word 'should' creates anxiety and pressure.
  • Why we create these shoulds.
  • One word to start replacing 'should' with to relieve anxiety and pressure.
  • How to stop feeling pressured by what you feel like you should do.
  • Why looking into the past to say what you should have done is a bad idea.

Take a listen via the player at the top of the page.

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Love, Laughter & Light,

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Aug 10, 2016

I’m sure there’s a point in all our lives where we realise that our beliefs have been holding us back to varying degrees.

I know I’ve certainly experienced this.

We create these ideas and concepts about the world and life and we just… believe them!

And they stop us from fulfilling our true potential.

In fact, in some cases they don’t just stop us from fulfilling our potential, but completely block our access to experiencing just a basic level of health, happiness and success in life.

A lot of the time, however, we don’t even see our beliefs as beliefs. To us, they’re just ‘how the world works’ or ‘how things happen’ that we just accept and allow to aide us continuing our struggles.

So mastering our beliefs is a huge part of building inner strength and experiencing the life we want to live at our truest potential.

And that’s what I want to focus on in today’s podcast.

How Are Beliefs Formed?

Let’s start this off by getting clearer on what beliefs actually are and how they are born.

And to do this, I find it easiest to divide this whole concept or topic up into three areas.

Truth. Opinion. And beliefs.


Truth is the absolute. The undeniable. The uncontentious fact.

It is seeing the sun rising or sensing the wind blowing against our face or feeling the earth underneath our feet.

Now, of course, I could go into the whole ‘matrix’ thing and ask whether all this I just mentioned actually is true or not.

But that’s being gratuitously philosophically dick headish of me when I think about the real purpose of this post.

For ease’s sake, let’s just say that seemingly simple things like the sun rising every morning and the wind blowing on your face are undeniable truths of this world.

And if you want to start questioning that and debating deep philosophies about ‘unplugging from the matrix’ then you can email


Something that we, as humans, have been gifted with is the power of consciousness.

And a result of having this conscious mind is that we are able to form opinions about the world around us.

We experience an event, an occurrence or anything and we have the ability to judge that experience and then form opinions about it.

We can say this is good, it’s bad, it’s wrong, it’s right, it’s going to happen, it’s not going to happen or anything!

But at this point, at this level, we are still aware that what we are doing is an opinion and is, therefore, not necessarily and concretely true.


To put it simply, belief comes around when, essentially, we take our opinions too far and see them as truths.

If we believe in something, then we see it as truth.

To us, it is real. It is undeniable. It is our truth.

Yet this can be a huge mistake when it comes to wanting to live out a happy, peaceful, successful life.

Take the medieval ‘dark ages’ in western Europe, for example. This was a time when extreme religious belief created a backwards moving society after the fall of the Roman Empire.

As a result, many people experienced appalling living conditions with executions and killings over such ‘evils’ as witchcraft and all sorts of other things in the name of what was believed to be true.

Somebody (or a large group of people with authority) formed an opinion about life and the world and it became widely believed as the truth.

This is how beliefs are formed.

What’s My Point Here?

A key thing here, as always, is awareness.

If we can become aware of and accepting of the idea that everything we believe is simply an opinion we have formed, and not undeniable truth, then this in itself creates a shift at some level.

It opens up the space for us to begin ridding ourselves of the limiting beliefs that have been holding us back.

Because if you can simply accept that every belief you’ve formed is simply an opinion, then it automatically, by definition, becomes no longer absolute truth in your eyes.

And you become opened to the idea of forming a new opinion and a new belief around that subject. One that serves you and the rest of the world in a better way.

Remember, there are no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ opinions or beliefs, just opinions and beliefs that will serve us in different ways.

How Do Beliefs Affect Us?

Many of us, particularly if you’ve delved into any kind of self-help or personal development world, will be aware of limiting beliefs.

Beliefs can create limits in us when it comes to how much money we can earn, what kind of life is possible, etc, etc.

But, as eluded to earlier in this piece, beliefs create the biggest limits when we don’t even recognise them as beliefs and don’t realise that there’s even any other way of thinking.

So we can have limiting beliefs holding us back in all areas of our lives without us even realising.

It can be what you believe around a health issue, how a relationship is supposed to look, what other people think of you or anything.

Beliefs Are Our Life Lenses

A great analogy I like to use for thinking about beliefs is to look at them as the lenses we view the world through.

So when we think about putting on a pair of glasses, these are lenses that alter how we see the world. That is their job.

We can put on one pair of glasses and see perfectly, yet we can put on a different pair and see barely anything but a blur.

The key thing to remember here, though, is that although the lenses change how we see something, they do not change the actual thing we’re looking at.

If we look at a rock on the floor, we can see a blurry rock or crystal clear rock, depending on what lenses we wear.

But regardless of which lenses we use to look at the rock through, the actual rock itself does not change.

And our beliefs work the same way.

They are the lenses we look at the world through.

The difference, however, is that when we go to the opticians and test out a pair of glasses and see a blur, we come to the conclusion that those lenses aren’t for us. We don’t just accept and form a belief that the world actually is blurry.

So it’s vital if we can understand that everything we believe – our whole concept of the world and what’s possible within it – is a lens, or a collection of various different lenses built up through our past experiences, that we view the world through.

Because with this understanding we begin to give ourselves the power to push our self-imposed limits and completely alter our perception of what’s possible for us.

Creating A Mind Shift in Our Beliefs

So maybe what I’ve talked about so far has been really interesting to you and has opened your eyes a little bit.

I know learning this stuff certainly opened mine!

But you may be wondering where the action point comes in here. What are we supposed to do with this information? And how do we apply it to our lives?

Well, as with a lot of things, awareness just by itself is a huge first step. Everything becomes a lot easier and more straightforward when the lights are on.

So the action point here is to simply use that awareness.

In every experience or event or situation we find ourselves in, understand that we are interpreting that through the lenses we’ve built up over the years.

If we can go into every situation aware of the lenses we’re wearing and being willing to see them for what they are and almost ‘edit’ our thoughts and interpretations from said situation, then it stretches what we believe to be our limits and potential.

For example, you go into a situation and begin thinking “I can’t do this, I’m not good enough”. But if you’re willing to see that this is your belief based on the lenses you’re wearing and begin to edit and question that thought then you start to see that it doesn’t need to be true for you.

And it’s a continual practice that helps us here.

We challenge and edit our own interpretations of what’s going on around us, which leads to a shift in our internal state, which leads to a shift in our behaviours and actions, which leads to more positive and ‘better’ results.

Three Steps to Beliefs That Serve Us Better

With all that said, there is a simple three step procedure that we can use to bring a bit more structure to this ‘editing of thoughts and beliefs’.

Step #1 Awareness

The first part to this is the actual awareness itself.

So rather than simply allowing our environment and the thoughts we have to rule us and how we feel, we need to actually pay attention to them.

We need to not suppress, ignore and wish these away, but stand up and look them in the eye.

Something I would invite you to do is to spend some time with your own thoughts. Listen to them and the things going on in your head instead of ignoring them and trying to ‘plough on through’.

So ask yourself…

What do I believe about myself?

What do I believe about my health?

What do I believe about money?

What do I believe about my business or career?

What are all the negative thoughts that I think on a regular basis?

Sit down and spend an hour just doing this with yourself and writing your answers down on paper. I guarantee it’ll be pretty eye opening.

Step #2 Challenge

This is where we get to take off those lenses you’ve been wearing.

Everything that you have down on that piece of paper, go through and ask yourself one simple question…

Is this thought serving me in the way I would ideally like?

And if it isn’t, ask yourself…

Is this thought true?

If you’re struggling with it, then try imagining yourself seeing it through those different lenses.

Take your current lenses off and ask yourself again…

Is this really true?

And, if necessary, go and seek out evidence for yourself to prove that it is not true.

Imagine yourself as a lawyer trying to prove to a jury in your head that this thought is just not true.

Step #3 Exchange

So now we’ve become aware of the lenses we’re wearing and begun to challenge the thoughts we have as a result of them, we can now exchange or replace this old thought with a new one.

We start to put on a pair of lenses that allow us to stretch our limits and potential.

In essence, after challenging our old thoughts and beliefs, we get to ask ourselves…

What would be a thought that would serve me better?

And we can choose this thought as the way we now get to interpret and build meaning around our current environment.

To Finish Off

Again, this is a practice.

Don’t expect to do this once and instantly have all your mindset or any other kind of problems solved like some kind of magic pill.

You can do this three step procedure as an actual activity where you sit down and list everything out as I suggest in step one.

Or you can take it out into the ‘real world’, so to speak, and do it as a negative thought or belief creeps into your daily goings on.

My suggestion is that you mix the two. Maybe every few weeks do a big activity where you write everything down, but still practicing challenging your thoughts and exchanging with better serving ones when you’re ‘out in the field’.

The key is to maintain your understanding of the lens analogy and be willing to remove those lenses and see them for what they are in every situation or environment.

Hopefully this will help you move forward and reach your truest potential.

I know this is something that has really helped me.

And I continue to work at it.

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Love, Laughter & Light,

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Aug 8, 2016

T'was an awesome conversation I had this week with Alexis Panayiotou.

I first met him last year when we were both on a retreat in Thailand.

And I've been thinking about having him on the podcast since I started it.

Alexis is a coach who helps people to transform in the truest sense of the word.

But he's always had very successful careers in the past in the army and in personal training.

And these past experiences have massively helped him in the art and science of facilitating transformation for others.

So this encompasses a lot of what we talked about in our conversation.

In The Episode, We Talk About...

  • How Alexis' experience in the British Army helped shape him as a person.
  • The real meaning of the word 'transformation'.
  • How to permanently transform into the healthiest, most successful and very best version of yourself.
  • What stops a lot of us from being able to transform and form new habits.
  • Why our brain sometimes stops us from taking the positive actions we know we want to take.
  • The science of forming new habits.
  • And much more...


This was an epic episode and I loved every minute of it!

You can give the episode a listen via the player above.

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Love, Laughter & Light,

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Aug 5, 2016

I used to hate visualising my future.

Whatever I thought about, I just couldn't get a real deep feeling from it.

But this all changed recently.

And that's what I talk about in today's episode.

I talk about...

  • Why I used to hate visualising my future.
  • How I began getting a flicker of excitement about my vision.
  • "The Miracle Morning" by Hal Elrod
  • Different levels of visualising our future.
  • The power of a WHY when it comes to your vision.

Take a listen via the player at the top of the page.

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Love, Laughter & Light,

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Aug 3, 2016

Ah crap, I’ve gone and made it weird, haven’t I?

We were getting on so well with all the brain stuff, physical health talk and mindset topics.

Even the mental and emotional health shizzle from last week ended up being pretty cool after starting off with an awkward eye roll.

But now I’ve gone and mentioned the ‘s’ word… spiritual. What a dick.

Hear me out though.

Because I’m not simply going to suggest we all need to become hippies and spend 10 years meditating on a mountain in Asia.

What is Spiritual Health?

I suppose we’d better start, then, by looking at what ‘spiritual health’ actually is.

Now this potentially is going to open up one hell of a can of worms as I know there can be a whole host of definitions here.

To me, however, the term ‘spiritual health’ has nothing to do with religion, hardcore dogmatism or falling into being any particular stereotype or ‘type’ of person.

In other words, you can benefit from improving your spiritual health without needing to start memorising a particular book or developing an obsession with Buddha statues. But there’s also nothing wrong with doing that if you want to (personally, I love Buddha statues).

Essentially, spiritual health is about continually looking to ‘grow’ as a person, while still understanding that we will never be ‘fully grown’. So however much we grow and learn, there will always be more room to grow and more things to learn.

To me, a spiritually healthy person is someone who feels like they’re living a meaningful, purposeful existence and lives with a constant awareness and openness to the idea that everything they believe about life could be wrong.

So What’s the Point?

It all sounds kind of cool and fancy, doesn’t it?

But then there’s also the consideration of why do we need to bother looking after all this and thinking about spirituality and improving our spiritual health?

Well, in my view, it allows us to move away from, or at least begin to move away from, the bullshit of everyday life.

The perfectionism, the illogical fear, the worry, the comparing ourselves to others, the constant judgements being made, the drifting through life – it all starts to get put into a kind of perspective when we begin working on our spiritual health.

When we start doing this, things start to become a little bit clearer and simpler.

That horrible empty kind of feeling can begin finally filling up.

And we can start to experience more joy, happiness, love and that oh so elusive ‘inner peace’ in our lives.

So, as I’m sure you’ll agree, our spiritual health is a pretty good thing to get a handle on.

How to Improve Spiritual Health

Let’s take a look at some things that we can do to start working on our spiritual health.

What we can do to give ourselves a ‘spiritual workout’, so to speak.

By no means is this an exhaustive list. I’m sure there’s much more that can be done, depending on what one would bring into the bracket of ‘spiritual health’.

But here are six things I feel are pretty important and useful when it comes to improving our spiritual health.

#1 Just Let Go

“Let it go” is a phrase we tend to throw around a lot.

But what exactly is ‘it’? What are we trying to let go of?

Well, this all stems from meaning and how and where we attach meaning.

You see, meaning is a self-made concept.

When you first arrive in this world, nothing means anything to you. Nothing matters except getting food and going to the bathroom.

But as we progress in life and get older, we start to give meaning to more and more things.

How we look, how successful we are, how much money we make, the people we have around us, our social status, making a difference with our life, meeting deadlines, paying bills, not upsetting people, having a nice car, watching the latest TV series, travelling to see other parts of the world, sports teams, doing the garden, keeping the house tidy, setting a good example, God or a religion.

We give all, some or possibly even more of these things meaning in our lives and convince ourselves that they matter so much.

In fact, we convince ourselves they matter so much that we attach them to our happiness.

After years of being told by parents, teachers, authorities and our whole world about how much these things matter, we create this belief that all these things create an infrastructure to happiness and living life the ‘right way’.

We feel like we need these things.

That having them all sorted out is so important or… well that’s just the thing. Or what?

Trouble is, life sometimes has other ideas and kicks us in the gonads when it comes to all this stuff.

It blocks things from happening, makes it hard and creates situations where we fuck up.

And when this happens, we start to feel like broken human beings who can’t even carry out the simple act of living a good life.

Letting go, or, as I like to call it, saying ‘fuck it’, is the act of breaking that bond of attaching meaning to all these random things.

Breaking Up with Our ‘Meaningful’ Things

I realise I’ve titled this first point “just let go”, as if it’s so simple to just say “fuck it” and all the meaning and attachment you’ve built up over the years will disappear.

Job done. Zen-master Buddha badass you now are. Or maybe not.

But think of these things like an ex-girlfriend or an ex-boyfriend.

And let’s imagine that you’re the one initiating the breaking up (you bastard).

If you’ve been in a relationship with someone for a number of years, even if you’re the one doing the breaking up, it takes time for you to ‘get over it’.

It takes time for you to, essentially, detach the meaning of that relationship from your life. To disassociate that relationship or that person from your idea of happiness so that you can move on.

What I’m driving at here is that ‘letting go’ of the attachment of meaning we have with so many different things in our lives is tough, requires work and takes time.

But if we can break that bond, break up that relationship, then we can see that none of this stuff really matters in the grand scheme of things.

Let’s Get Some Perspective

Now I know you’re probably sat there screaming at me “this all sounds so idealistic and great, but some things do matter. I need to pay my bills and have a good job and make a difference, etc.”

Okay, I agree.

But they only matter because you choose to create a feeling that they matter. And this means you can also choose to say ‘fuck it’ and create a feeling that they don’t matter.

People who find out they have cancer often have a sudden realisation that all the shit they were worrying about just doesn’t matter anymore.

All the things they were allowing to take over their lives – the work emails building up, paying off that bill, getting that more important job – they just all begin to seem so… insignificant.

I’m not saying you’re not allowed to care about anything and should give up on goals and dreams, but maybe just not attach so much meaning to it all and sacrifice our happiness and inner peace in the present moment because of fears we may lose what we have now or not get what we want in the future.

So invite you to simply zoom out, take a look at your life from a distance and consider the possibility that you could maybe let go of the meaning you are attaching to some things.

Note: An unbelievably epic book that really helped me on this concept is “F**k It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way” by John C. Parkin.

#2 Take Time for Introspection

It’s so easy in this modern day world to get caught up in the ‘rat race’ of life and spend our time always pushing and driving forward.

Of course, this is good in one sense. We all want to achieve things and live rich, fulfilling lives. And in order to do that, we need to work and be consistent action takers.

But we also need to remember the importance and value we can get from taking a step back and having regular moments of introspection.

If we’re constantly on, moving and driving, then we have very little time to consider whether we’re actually going in the right direction.

By taking the time to reflect inwardly every so often, we can allow ourselves the pleasure of assessing everything in our life and whether we are living in line with our values.

We can ask ourselves deep questions and give ourselves the time and space to answer them properly without thinking about having to rush back to the next client call, marketing activity or staff meeting.

Because when we ask ourselves these deep questions, and allow ourselves the time to go beyond the superficial ‘fake’ answers, we discover things about ourselves.

And when we discover things about ourselves, we become more aware of who we really are.

And when we can become more aware of our truest selves, then this provides room for growth.

Discovering Purpose

Many people go through periods where they are trying desperately to “figure out their purpose”.

I hear so many podcasts and see so many blogs that give all kinds of ways of ‘discover one’s purpose’.

In fact, I had a crisis of purpose myself recently.

But I discovered that focussing on this one purpose, finding that one thing you were put here to do, is pretty much a needless frustration to have.

Nobody wants to ‘have a purpose’. We just want to feel purposeful.

So we should, in fact, be focusing on trying to simply find and do what makes us feel purposeful. This feeling is what we desire when we all delve into this whole ‘purpose thing’.

And feeling purposeful can come from anything. Acts as small as helping an old man cross the street, to as big as building an international charity that helps millions of people.

But finding out what makes us feel purposeful is an introspective act.

And it takes regular moments or periods of stepping back and assessing in order for us to ensure we are properly aligned in this way.

#3 Express Some Self-Love

Of course, we can give ourselves some love in a physical way.

(No not like that, I can tell what you’re thinking).

I mean loving yourself through positive actions, such as exercise, healthy food, meditation, good sleep and all that good stuff.

But perhaps more importantly is loving yourself on a more spiritual level.

Sometimes we can do all these ‘good’ things, such as exercise and eating well, from a place of fear and hate.

We can get to a position in our thinking where we hate how we look and how we feel (or fear losing it) so much that we become obsessed with constant exercise and never putting a foot wrong with our diet.

On the other side of that coin, of course, we can also punish ourselves with poor exercise and eating habits. But it can still come from the same place of hating ourselves.

Either way, coming from a place of fear and hate is not exactly the most spiritually badass thing we can do.

Self-Love from Self-Acceptance

So where we can start with all this is to make the decision to accept ourselves, just as we are, right now.

Each and every person reading this is worthy of love from themselves and others, regardless of things that happened in the past, what they look like or any other factor.

Nobody needs to be ‘fixed’ or to experience ‘self-improvement’, because there is nothing that is broken or that needs improving upon.

All there is, is room to grow.

Think about the acorn.

At its smallest, the acorn still has everything it needs within it to keep growing. As long as it stays nourished, it will become a mighty oak.

The acorn is continually looking to grow, but at no point is it ever ‘broken’. The only way it can do anything ‘wrong’ is to stop growing.

We each start off as a human form of an acorn. And we have the ability to grow into a human version of a mighty oak tree.

But it is key to embrace our imperfections, accept and love ourselves unconditionally as we are and be on a path of growth, not trying to fix.

#4 Make Room for Growth

So how do we stay on a ‘growth pathway’, so to speak?

Essentially, we need to make room for and be open to growth to take place and consistently nourish ourselves with things that will create growth.

One of the most crucial things we can do is open ourselves up to the idea that everything is an opportunity for growth.

Rather than staying closed off and ‘set in our ways’, being open and genuinely listening to new ideas without any bias can be extremely powerful.

We tend to form deep-rooted beliefs and opinions based on previous experiences and what we’ve been told by authorities in our lives.

But growth occurs when we put ourselves in a position to challenge these.

If we accept that everything we know and believe could be wrong, then growth is so much easier.

In fact, dispel the idea that there is in every situation a ‘right’ and a ‘wrong’ opinion. Simply the opportunity to learn, grow and add more knowledge.

Actually seeking out and listening without judgement to opinions, thoughts and experiences that are perhaps opposing our own or come from outside our usual sources can be one of the most powerful things we can do.

Read books you wouldn’t normally read. Listen to people you wouldn’t normally listen to. Seek out experiences you wouldn’t normally seek out.

By submerging ourselves in only ‘one side of the argument’, so to speak, we’re simply reinforcing old beliefs and patterns and not allowing ourselves room to grow.

Ridding Ourselves of Judgement

The key phrase here in all this is ‘without judgement’.

If something disagrees or goes against our current belief set, it goes a long way to just consider it without passing instant judgement and blindly casting it away as complete BS.

Of course, things will trigger you.

I’m not expecting you to just be able to from now on sit back and not react to anything like some kind of crazy Buddhist monk.

There will be times when you read or see something that instantly sparks something inside and, sometimes, pisses you off.

But rather than running with that, denying any possibility that you could be wrong and potentially launching into some tirade of abuse, it can be extremely useful for you and your future growth to simply ask why it triggered you in the first place.

Be honest with yourself and ask ‘why don’t I really like this person?’ or ‘why did I really just get pissed off by what that person said?’.

This can be tough, but the truth will set you free.

There We Go…

I now feel like I’ve unleashed my spiritual zen master knowledge on you.

By no means am I claiming this to be the ultimate guide to spiritual health and everything you need to know.

But these are things that have really helped me and I wanted to share.

Feel free to non-judgmentally cast them away as complete bollocks (see what I did there? ;) )

But this is my truth at the moment.

Hopefully some of it will help you in some way.

Take a listen to the podcast episode for this blog post via the player at the top.

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Love, Laughter & Light,

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Aug 1, 2016

This was an awesome conversation I had with Michael Kohan that I could have kept going for several hours longer.

Now you may look look at Michael's name in the title of this post and wonder what the hell is going on and why there's another 'Eastern looking' name in there too.

Well that's because Michael has dedicated a large portion of his life to extensive study and practice under world renowned Bhakti Yoga and spiritual teacher, Radhanath Swami.

In 2013, Michael was officially initiated into Radhanath Swami's spiritual lineage and presented with the new name, Mukunda Chandra das.

In other words, Michael has some pretty badass experience and knowledge when it comes to spiritual teachings.

He currently operates as a life coach and yoga teacher where he shares his wisdom in any way he can.

But, as tends to be a theme in these podcasts, it hasn't always been that way.

In The Episode, We Talk About...

  • Michael's story of going from overweight, miserable, money-driven NYC real estate worker to health-infused spiritual master.
  • How a simple yoga class saved Michael's life.
  • What Michael learned from dedicating years of his life to daily spiritual practices and study.
  • How to apply ancient spiritual teachings to achieve happiness and inner peace in the modern day world.
  • Why coming from a standpoint of love, as opposed to fear, is the happiest way.
  • How to make 'happy money'.


You can give the episode a listen via the player above.

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Love, Laughter & Light,

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